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Loose Him and
Let Him Go
ONE OF THE natural tendencies
of the mortal mind is toward proselyting.
The moment we believe something
to be true we begin to try to convert others to our belief. In our eagerness
we forget that Truth is kaleidoscopic in its forms. We learn to say, with
some degree of realization, "God worketh in me to will and to work
for His good pleasure," but we quite forget that the same God is working
equally in our brother "to will and to work."
Among the wise sayings of the
ancient philosopher, Epictetus, we find these words: "Does any one
bathe hastily? Do not say that he does it ill, but hastily. Does any one
drink much wine? Do not say that he does ill, but that he drinks a great
deal. For unless you perfectly understand his motives, how should you know
if he acts ill? Thus you will not risk yielding to any appearances but
such as you fully comprehend."
Every person has an inherent
right to freedom of choice, a right to live his life in his own way. One
of the surest signs that a person is no longer in bondage himself is his
willingness to give others their freedom, to allow others the privilege
of seeking and finding God as they will.
Our great basic statement
is "All is good, because all is God." In other words, God Is
the only intelligence, the only life at the center of every form of existing
life. We say that we believe the highest manifestation of God is in man;
that God ever abides at the center of man, of all mankind, and is always
in process of manifesting more and more of Himself, pure intelligence,
perfect love, through man's consciousness until man comes to be consciously
one with the Father in all things.
Do you really believe this fundamental
statement? If you do believe it, where is there any cause for the anxiety
that you feel about your loved ones who are not, as you say, "in the
If we truly believed that "all
is good," we should not be troubled about those who apparently are
going all wrong. They may be going wrong according to our limited conception
of right and wrong, but my brother, my sister, you are not your brother's
keeper. He that will redeem, aye! He that has already redeemed your brother,
lives within Him. The Christ, who ever loves at the center of every soul,
"will neither slumber nor sleep." God works, or as the original
has it, "God is working effectually to perform" in your brother,
to bring him to himself just as much as He is working in you and in me.
We have absolutely nothing to fear about the eventual success
of this worker. God never fails.
You have perhaps come to the
flowering or the fruiting season, in your growth out of the darkness of
sense belief into the light of spiritual understanding. It is blessed and
beautiful to be where you are, and it is hard to human belief to see those
whom you love just barely showing their heads above the earth of sin and
mistake, or harder still to see them daily going deeper into the earth
of an animal life, farther away from your conception of the good than ever
But just here is the place for
us to cling faithfully and trustingly to our basic statement. "In
hope were we saved; but hope that is seen is not hope," said Paul.
Faith is not sight. Is our basic statement, "All is good," founded
on Principle or on evidence of the senses? If on Principle, then it is
immutable, unchangeable. And God is just as surely abiding at the center
of your loved husband or son, working in him, when he is drinking, or going
down, as when he is coming up.
God is just as much the life
of the seed when it is being planted in the dark earth, where, to the human
sense, it is dead and all is lost, as He is the life of the new leaf which
a few days later bursts into sight, In fact it is because God is there
at the center, working in the stillness, unseen, and not at all because
of the fussy, noisy outside work that you and I do, that the seed comes
forth into newness of life.
"Except a grain of wheat
fall into the earth and die, it abideth by itself alone; but if it die,
it beareth much fruit."
Thus it would seem that the
dying, the failure, the going down of the old is a necessary step in all
true salvation. Every man must go down till he strikes his own level, his
own self, before there can be any real growth. We may seem to hold another
up for a while, but eventually he must walk alone. The time of his walking
alone with his own indwelling Christ, his own true self, will depend largely
on our letting go of him. No one will seek anything higher than he is today,
until he feels the need of something higher. Your dear ones must have the
liberty to live out their own lives, and you must let them, or else you
are the one who puts off the day of their salvation .
"But," says someone
whose heart is aching over the error ways of a loved one, "should
you not help anyone? Should you not run after him, and urge him continually
to turn into the right way?"
Yes and no. I gladly, joyfully
help anyone when he wants help, but I could not urge anyone to leave his
own light and walk by my light. Nor would I, like an overfond mother, pick
up another and try to carry him in my arms by continually "treating"
A mother may--and sometimes
does, mentally and morally, if not physically--through her false conception
of love, carry her child until he is twenty years old, lest he, not knowing
how to walk, fall and bump his nose a few times. But if she does this until
he is a grown man, what will he do? He will turn and rend her, because
she has stolen from him his inherent right to become a strong, self-reliant
man. She has interposed herself between him and the power within him that
was waiting, from his birth, to be strength and sufficiency for him in
all things. She should have placed him on his own feet, made him know that
there was something in himself that could stand, encouraged and steadied
him, and so helped him to be self-reliant and independent.
Hundreds of anxious fathers
and mothers, sisters and wives say, "Ah! but I love this one so I
cannot stand still and see him rushing on to an inevitable suffering."
Yes, you love him. But I tell
you that it takes an infinitely greater, more God-like love to stand still
and see your child burn his hand a little, that he may gain self-knowledge,
than it does to be a bond-slave to him, ever on the alert to prevent the
possibility of his learning through a little suffering. Are you equal
to this larger love--to the
love that does not hold itself on the qui vive to interpose its
nagging bodily presence between the dear ones and their own indwelling
Lord who is with them "always"? Having come yourself to a knowledge
of the mighty truth that "God is all and in all," have you the
moral courage to "be still, and know"; to take off all restrictions
and rules from others, and to let the God within them, each one, grow them
as He will; and, trusting Him to do it in the right way, keep yourself
from all anxiety in the matter?
When Jesus preached of a glorious
freedom from suffering, through a "kingdom . . . within," He
often interspersed His preaching with the words, "He that hath ears,
let him hear." In other words, the Gospel message of deliverance is
for all who are ready for it. Let him who has come to where he wants it,
No one has any right to coerce
another to accept his ideal. Every person has a right to keep his own ideal
until he desires to change it.
God is leading your friend by
a way you do not and cannot know. It is a safe and sure way; it is the
shortest and only way. It is the Christ way; the within way, "I am
the door," says the Christ within every man's own soul. "If any
man enter in, [that is, by way of the Christ in himself] he shall be saved."
Now you are trying to have
your friend enter in through your door. He must enter in through his own
Christ, his own desire, and you must let him alone to the workings of that
indwelling One, if you want him to manifest good.
"But," you say, "is
there nothing I can do when I see my husband, brother, friend, going down?"
Yes, there is something you
can do, and a very effectual something, too.
"The sword of the Spirit
. . . is the word of God." You can, whenever you think of your friend,
speak the word of freedom to him. You can always and in all ways "Loose
him, and let him go," not forgetting that the letting him go is as
important as the loosing him. You can tell him mentally that Christ lives
within him and makes him free, forever free; tell him that he manifests
the Holy One wherever he goes and at all times, for there Is nothing else
to manifest. And then you see to it that you do not recognize any other
manifestation than the good in him.
It is written, "Whose soever
sins ye forgive, they are forgiven unto them; whose soever sins ye retain,
they are retained." Will you invariably speak the word of remission
or loosing to your erring ones? Or will you bind them closer, tighter in
the bondage that is breaking your own heart, by speaking the word of retention
to them continually?
If you really want your friends
to be free, there is but one way for you: Loose them and let them go. For
it is the promise of the Father, through the Son, that "Whatsoever
thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven."
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